What makes relationship happy and lasting?
Tuesday, 04 June 2013 19:38 | 
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Joy derived from being heard and understood by partners is one of the most important aspects of the relationship. How happy and lasting their relationship will be depends not only on their ability to listen one another but also on their willingness and readiness to constant work on deepening this experience.
Only when we become free from the shadows of our past experiences and from fantasies of how the relationship supposed to be, we can truly “meet and experience” another human being. Only then we can truly love.
Read the article in Polish…. It will be translated into English soon.
Everyone who has been inquired for reasons of leaving homeland has different story to tell. Even though we all came different ways and from different life paths, what all immigrants have in common is their strong desire to change and hope for better life than the one they left behind. Often courage to make such a decision is not enough to find self in the new and unknown world that not only speaks different language but is also driven by different rules and principals then the one we have always know and understood. A wish that the very thing we wanted to run away from is going to disappear just by changing environment is a common illusion that people often fall into.
Even thought it is not rare that men find their ways to my office, it is much easier for women to ask for help. Old saying teaches: “You can’t turn off the darkness, but you can turn on the light”. Sometimes it is very difficult to move around in the darkness. Someone has to turn on the light for you.
Psychotherapy does not help to change the world we live in. Psychotherapy can help to change our inner world. It depends on us what use of our experiences we make: whether we allow them to destroy us or we utilize them in our way to self-growth.
Every extremely stressful experience that leaves emotional and psychological injury is human’s psyche is called trauma. Fear of repetition of the injury is common barrier that affects person’s capability to build healthy relationships, preventing from experiencing true intimacy, sometimes for entire life.